When Is “work” the thing you love?

When is “work” the thing you love?

How do you make a living doing that work?

Can I find / discover / develop that feeling?

at 9:25 – 10.40

“If today were the last day of my life. Would I want to do what I am about to do today. When the answer is no. For too many days in a row. I know I need to change something” Steve Jobs

There’s no magic formula. There’s no easy way, there is just trial and error until you find one day you wake up and you love what you do. When you lose fear and allow courage to guide you. That is when you begin to see what you love to do is simply experience life and give back.

Always strive to be a better version of yourself everyday. You will find you are doing the things you love, you are making a living and you are living with purpose.

The You is me way of life….

I looked around the room last night. Twenty people in the same room setting in the same chairs hoping for a chance for the same position. I set in the front row making conversation with the lady and the desk. It was so quite behind me. I turned and ask the guys and one girl. Why so quite why so nerves. One brave guy piped up “i am not I have a job. Funny, me to I thought, all others are quite then the test starts.

With test in hand  setting looking at the paper. Thinking of each face, I looked into each of there eyes and saw myself. Some I could see pain, some I could see guilt, some I could see shame, some I could see hope and love.

Then I realized the most frighting thing of all. When I walked into the room it was quite. I being the person that I was in the moment had a need to filled the room with the sound of his own voice. Hoping to find laughter.

I only saw fear. They are all me, all of them, everyone and everything. (All I want is to be happy and excepted)

The ME is YOU way… See and treat everyone as they are an extension of yourself.

The Gifts we can only feel

Something given without the expectation of payment.

Often we think of a gift as something that can be seen or given. That a gift must come from someone or someplace.

This is not the case when we discover and admit to feelings. I am give gifts every moment of my life without exception. My friends, my vision, my kids, my wife. This list could go on and no.

One gift I sometimes forget about is the gift of accomplishment. The feeling of seeing my goals becoming reality. How amazing and wonderful that world looks when the goals I set come true.

Time is the only real commodity spend it wisely. (watch this and cry)

To be free

We start off this world with a bang. We are untapped potential screaming as loud as we can get what we need in this life. We are little masterpieces of creation. Capable of learning anything and everything the world has to offer. We are quickly shaped  by the experiences that others have had. We are told what to do, what to wear, what to eat, how to act and that someday we also will have to fend for ourselves in this cruel unforgiving world. We get to school we are taught the same things in the same desks with the same pencils and paper and crayons.  We are taught to consume and be good citizens. To be considered normal you must graduate high school graduate college get a good job and buy a house. Start a family save for your future and when you’re at the end of those working years. You retire you are tired old beat down worn-out and now it’s time to enjoy what you have left. That is a great life when you accomplish the goals that others have set for you. It is amazing when you could look back and see so many smiles and memories.  Is not a bad idea or a bad existence.  The fact that we forgot to live our own lives with our own potentials our own passions is what I’m referring to. We came out kicking and screaming ready to tackle the world. Do not live someone else’s life, Discover your own life.  you will know you’re getting close to happiness when you begin to feel as if you are too honest and to open with your feelings. It will be uncomfortable but you will be free.

pleasure and pain the true story

A common human trait is to turn pleasure into pain.I set out to define what caused this self-destructive behavior. One common word begin to surface over and over again. That word (worry) along with worry I find fear and more importantly story.


To find the cause of this destruction in our lives I asked the opposite question. How do you turn pain into pleasure? The common word,  knowledge. More specifically understanding and gaining knowledge about fear/worry. Which gave me a common ground to work from.


Worry is the fear of not having knowledge. It is because of the story we convince ourselves to believe.


This leads to a balance of healthy fear and healthy stories. What is healthy fear? Fear of death bodily harm? This definition is unique to every living creature. Not only humans but any creature that strives for survival. My new method to balance fear is self talk. When we achieve the maturity level it takes to stop listening to the negative fearful untrue stories. Our mind will begin to question the truthfulness of the stories, balance may be achieved. However if we simply believe our mind and the stories that it tells we can never gain knowledge about the fear and the worry that holds us back from achieving our dreams and goals.

The balance is in the story we believe to be true. Change the story “In the light of knowledge courage remains”. Earl Nightingale

The quantum principle the creation of stories

We define the word quantum as the smallest particle that can exist independently from others.

When seen through the lens of a microscope our human bodies are nothing more than tiny particles working together to become the thing we are supposed be. As we live we experience all of the good things and all the bad things. If you were to look at each experience under a microscope it to would be unrecognizable. Each experience good or bad is working together to become the thing we are supposed to be.

When we look up from the lens of the microscope and we stare into the mirror. There is a reflection of what and who we believe we are. We are still the collection of particles. We are still the collection of experiences. Without each particle working together without each experience our reflection could not exist.

You see, the world you create is like the reflection in the mirror. It can be as beautiful as you choose. It can be an amazing story if you choose to believe it. It is simply a collection of particles and a collection of experiences allowing you to experience joy or pain.

When we zoom out further we can then see we are also a particle (Person) experiencing the environment that we create. The differences: we are the creators of what others see and experience. Without a team working together providing services and products we cannot help other families recognize the potential and opportunity for greatness.

2015 is the year of US an amazing team built and designed to create. Not just amazing physical creations. But experiences that can be remembered and talked about for years to come. Our ability to create and become the best is only limited by our imagination.

let 2015 be the year of growth for our families for our spirit for our lives. Take one moment and remember the struggles tell them thank you them for allowing you to become you. Take a moment to remember the joys and thank them for allowing you to become you. Let 2015 be the year that creates the best story of our lives. As a team we will make it a great one.

Money the ultimate fear

spiders, snakes, heights, they all can instill fear in our irrational minds. Each could kill us under the right circumstances. But the fear money instills in our human minds can cause our untimely demise physical or spiritual it’s still death. As humans we spend all our life trying to accumulate money as a sign of success. And as we get old we try desperately to use the money we accumulated to live our life. (what little time is left). The moments that matter are only stories that others tell. When we accumulate enough wealth to say we have succeeded we then tried desperately to hold onto that to which we call success. To protect it from those who want to take it from us. To which the fear will keep you up at night finding ways to protect your success. You will become sick with greed as you will die alone even though your physical body will go on you are not truly living. The fear of not having the money that we so desperately want and tell yourself you need will devour us into the darkness to which there is no escape. There are some that fear the lack of money so much that they will kill others to achieve the goal of having. My friends we can avoid spiders and snakes. We can choose not to climb. We can also choose to control our successes based on something other than money. To which you and I can live our lives on a unique one-of-a-kind experience remembering the moments that made us smile. Remembering to give back to the world around us. I we must teach our children that they are the gifts to the world the world is not a gift to them. The world will love them, take care of and allow them all the experiences they choose to have. Money will kill the soul and remove the joy of experiencing the world around us. This is why money should be feared above all other. Not because money is bad but because our belief of what money gives us.

Stay happy my friends listen….. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kCjrANPj0Jw

Embrace  pain/failure it shall guide you into yourself. Find the happiness in the now, the pain you feel will become your greatness. Greatness is achieved through the act of trying. Just as our body heals our physical wounds it leaves the reminders if the battle. As we journey through life our mind also has scars, they remind us of the struggles and pain. Develop the understanding that those scars can turn you ugly if you let them. Or you may choose to become more beautiful than you ever imagined…….


Choose Beauty

Never fear being you

Never Expect others to accept you, when you cannot accept yourself

Beauty is found in one’s action

Rob Vandemark (inspiration)

Change and understand your state of mind

What is the first thing you think without having a subject to think about? Where does the mind go? If you are like most people we begins to focus on things from your past. And when I say past that could be from when your child or moments ago. 100% of the time we are in some sort of state. Be that angry or happy with a multitude of other states. We will be thinking of a thought 100% of the time. Even with meditation it is virtually impossible to get away from thought.

The question is what is thought? and how does it affect my state of mind? The answer is – most of our thoughts are automatic they are triggered by the experiences of a moment in time. Captured and stored in your brain for our future use. The smells, the tastes the sounds the sights and the feeling. Each trigger will manifest a new state instantaneously without hesitation. You will then immediately feel happiness or sadness depending on the focus of your moment.

We must become aware of each experience in order to develop a state of mind that gives us the ability for achievement, happiness and purpose. It seems like most of humans are focused on negative experiences/thoughts. Meaning that humanity tends to focus on the pain they felt in the past. Pain meaning humiliation, guilt, shame to name a few. These painful experiences remain with us all our life. While physical pain and the memory of physical pain is quickly forgotten.

When a negative feeling arises it affects our state of mind immediately. Here are a few thoughts or experiences that generate negative feelings- guilt, shame and humiliation. We all have with us a seemingly endless list of experiences to which negative feelings immediately affect our state of mind. If we focused on positive feelings there would be no need for writings like this.

The act of reacting to our negative state, is the precise moment depression, anger and frustration arise. Most of us will have the need to remove ourselves from this state of mind. We will use mind altering destructive poisons. We are simply looking for the quickest and most effective way to change our negative feelings. No one wants to have negative feelings which caused the shameful state, guilty state, or humiliated state of mind. (identify your tools to develop instantaneous state change) e.q. Drugs, alcohol, abuse to yourself or others.

Humanity is designed to experience life. That’s it! there is nothing more we were specifically meant to do. However through the experiences of life we discover our likes and our dislikes. Each person has a unique physical and mental makeup. Each human that walks this earth has a unique one-of-a-kind brain. And with that one-of-a-kind unique brain you will have strengths and weakness. Through our experiences we developed our likes and dislikes. As Tony Robin puts it our pain and our pleasure. Some of us find pleasurable that which others find painful. And vice versa. There are common threads between all humanity such as spiders to which most people fear, or heights to which a large percentage of people fear. Some people love to run marathons they find it very pleasurable to do so. And some people find it in incredibly hard and painful to run a marathon. Would you agree that those are opposing likes and dislikes? Think of what annoys you about others. You will find that in most cases it is because they have different likes and different dislikes then you. We tend to gravitate to those that have the same interests as we ourselves have.

Back to the question “what is thought”? Humans are meant to have an opened state of mind. To word it simply, Thinking is what the mind must do in order to move forward in its experiences. This act of thinking allows the human brain to utilize its experiences for the purpose of growing into the thing that it must become.

Are you confused yet?

State of mind is the act of becoming, reacting, experiencing and learning.

Learn to identify the state of mind you are experiencing at any given moment. By asking the question of yourself, why in my feeling this at this moment. You will discover buried or forgotten experiences held it in your mind. If you have the fortitude and the maturity to deal with those forgotten or buried experiences. The act of accepting them will allow those experiences to feel gratitude, Allowing you to grow from their pain. The need for poisons will no longer exist. The painful past experience will know its purpose.

Repeat until all the negative past experiences have felt gratitude for their existence. This process will produce a stable goal oriented happy purposeful beautiful wonderful amazing human.

Success is Attitude

As we venture in the world we spread our wings in the hopes that the wind will carry us too great heights. For many years I hoped that others would see the greatness within me, and as time went on my patients grew thin. I stop trying so hard. I stoped showing initiative and begin to blame others for my inability to achieve my goals. I would say things such as “they did not give me a chance”, “I can do the job better” “if it wasn’t for that manager I would have that job”. I look back on the past and I see why I was overlooked for the things I believe I was good at. Clearly was my attitude, It’s been a long journey and many setbacks. After 10 years of running my own business I see the errors of who I was. I now hold gratitude for the lessons that I was taught. My attitude I held was passed down from the people I surrounded myself with. When I begins to study successful people it is then I learned that attitude was not only the key to success but it was also the key to happiness. Success is how you react happiness is how you see. It hinges on your behavior and who you listen to.

“change your attitude and your view” Rob Vandemark