“If today were the last day of my life. Would I want to do what I am about to do today. When the answer is no. For too many days in a row. I know I need to change something” Steve Jobs
There’s no magic formula. There’s no easy way, there is just trial and error until you find one day you wake up and you love what you do. When you lose fear and allow courage to guide you. That is when you begin to see what you love to do is simply experience life and give back.
Always strive to be a better version of yourself everyday. You will find you are doing the things you love, you are making a living and you are living with purpose.
I looked around the room last night. Twenty people in the same room setting in the same chairs hoping for a chance for the same position. I set in the front row making conversation with the lady and the desk. It was so quite behind me. I turned and ask the guys and one girl. Why so quite why so nerves. One brave guy piped up “i am not I have a job. Funny, me to I thought, all others are quite then the test starts.
With test in hand setting looking at the paper. Thinking of each face, I looked into each of there eyes and saw myself. Some I could see pain, some I could see guilt, some I could see shame, some I could see hope and love.
Then I realized the most frighting thing of all. When I walked into the room it was quite. I being the person that I was in the moment had a need to filled the room with the sound of his own voice. Hoping to find laughter.
I only saw fear. They are all me, all of them, everyone and everything. (All I want is to be happy and excepted)
The ME is YOU way… See and treat everyone as they are an extension of yourself.
We start off this world with a bang. We are untapped potential screaming as loud as we can get what we need in this life. We are little masterpieces of creation. Capable of learning anything and everything the world has to offer. We are quickly shaped by the experiences that others have had. We are told what to do, what to wear, what to eat, how to act and that someday we also will have to fend for ourselves in this cruel unforgiving world. We get to school we are taught the same things in the same desks with the same pencils and paper and crayons. We are taught to consume and be good citizens. To be considered normal you must graduate high school graduate college get a good job and buy a house. Start a family save for your future and when you’re at the end of those working years. You retire you are tired old beat down worn-out and now it’s time to enjoy what you have left. That is a great life when you accomplish the goals that others have set for you. It is amazing when you could look back and see so many smiles and memories. Is not a bad idea or a bad existence. The fact that we forgot to live our own lives with our own potentials our own passions is what I’m referring to. We came out kicking and screaming ready to tackle the world. Do not live someone else’s life, Discover your own life. you will know you’re getting close to happiness when you begin to feel as if you are too honest and to open with your feelings. It will be uncomfortable but you will be free.
A common human trait is to turn pleasure into pain.I set out to define what caused this self-destructive behavior. One common word begin to surface over and over again. That word (worry) along with worry I find fear and more importantly story.
To find the cause of this destruction in our lives I asked the opposite question. How do you turn pain into pleasure? The common word, knowledge. More specifically understanding and gaining knowledge about fear/worry. Which gave me a common ground to work from.
Worry is the fear of not having knowledge. It is because of the story we convince ourselves to believe.
This leads to a balance of healthy fear and healthy stories. What is healthy fear? Fear of death bodily harm? This definition is unique to every living creature. Not only humans but any creature that strives for survival. My new method to balance fear is self talk. When we achieve the maturity level it takes to stop listening to the negative fearful untrue stories. Our mind will begin to question the truthfulness of the stories, balance may be achieved. However if we simply believe our mind and the stories that it tells we can never gain knowledge about the fear and the worry that holds us back from achieving our dreams and goals.
The balance is in the story we believe to be true. Change the story “In the light of knowledge courage remains”. Earl Nightingale