Success Defined

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Success Defined


“Success is repeatable so is failure”


After browsing hundreds of articles defining success through the eyes of those that write and publish these articles I find a ridiculous notion.


For example common themes that define success that are untrue: For each one of these examples you can find a list of rules that allows you to achieve success. The previously mentioned rules or steps are the repeatable piece that everyone has access to. There are no secrets……


The amount of money you collect

How much stuff you accumulate

Where you live

What you drive

How you dress

The words in your vocabulary

Type of shoes you own

Grade-point average of your children

Religious affiliation

Political standing

Who you know

Education level

Where you work

What you do at work

Chasing your dreams


I believe that success is not the achievement of this list, But what is achieved from the list. when you diligently chase the aforementioned list the resulting emotions are what truly defines success. “All who chase their dreams eventually find their true self” Rob Vandemark












love of others

The truth: “At the quantum level we are all built from the same stuff”

The one thing that causes a human to be a success is a true (Self Image!).

with a true self-image you will find there is little need for money or even success itself. You will understand that even without you on this earth life will continue without you. And with that understanding you can choose to contribute in a positive manner or a negative manner. A true self-image allows you to see the truth within the world. And not focus so intently on other people’s definition of success.


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When Is “work” the thing you love?

When is “work” the thing you love?

How do you make a living doing that work?

Can I find / discover / develop that feeling?

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“If today were the last day of my life. Would I want to do what I am about to do today. When the answer is no. For too many days in a row. I know I need to change something” Steve Jobs

There’s no magic formula. There’s no easy way, there is just trial and error until you find one day you wake up and you love what you do. When you lose fear and allow courage to guide you. That is when you begin to see what you love to do is simply experience life and give back.

Always strive to be a better version of yourself everyday. You will find you are doing the things you love, you are making a living and you are living with purpose.

The You is me way of life….

I looked around the room last night. Twenty people in the same room setting in the same chairs hoping for a chance for the same position. I set in the front row making conversation with the lady and the desk. It was so quite behind me. I turned and ask the guys and one girl. Why so quite why so nerves. One brave guy piped up “i am not I have a job. Funny, me to I thought, all others are quite then the test starts.

With test in hand  setting looking at the paper. Thinking of each face, I looked into each of there eyes and saw myself. Some I could see pain, some I could see guilt, some I could see shame, some I could see hope and love.

Then I realized the most frighting thing of all. When I walked into the room it was quite. I being the person that I was in the moment had a need to filled the room with the sound of his own voice. Hoping to find laughter.

I only saw fear. They are all me, all of them, everyone and everything. (All I want is to be happy and excepted)

The ME is YOU way… See and treat everyone as they are an extension of yourself.

The Gifts we can only feel

Something given without the expectation of payment.

Often we think of a gift as something that can be seen or given. That a gift must come from someone or someplace.

This is not the case when we discover and admit to feelings. I am give gifts every moment of my life without exception. My friends, my vision, my kids, my wife. This list could go on and no.

One gift I sometimes forget about is the gift of accomplishment. The feeling of seeing my goals becoming reality. How amazing and wonderful that world looks when the goals I set come true.

Time is the only real commodity spend it wisely. (watch this and cry)

To be free

We start off this world with a bang. We are untapped potential screaming as loud as we can get what we need in this life. We are little masterpieces of creation. Capable of learning anything and everything the world has to offer. We are quickly shaped  by the experiences that others have had. We are told what to do, what to wear, what to eat, how to act and that someday we also will have to fend for ourselves in this cruel unforgiving world. We get to school we are taught the same things in the same desks with the same pencils and paper and crayons.  We are taught to consume and be good citizens. To be considered normal you must graduate high school graduate college get a good job and buy a house. Start a family save for your future and when you’re at the end of those working years. You retire you are tired old beat down worn-out and now it’s time to enjoy what you have left. That is a great life when you accomplish the goals that others have set for you. It is amazing when you could look back and see so many smiles and memories.  Is not a bad idea or a bad existence.  The fact that we forgot to live our own lives with our own potentials our own passions is what I’m referring to. We came out kicking and screaming ready to tackle the world. Do not live someone else’s life, Discover your own life.  you will know you’re getting close to happiness when you begin to feel as if you are too honest and to open with your feelings. It will be uncomfortable but you will be free.

pleasure and pain the true story

A common human trait is to turn pleasure into pain.I set out to define what caused this self-destructive behavior. One common word begin to surface over and over again. That word (worry) along with worry I find fear and more importantly story.


To find the cause of this destruction in our lives I asked the opposite question. How do you turn pain into pleasure? The common word,  knowledge. More specifically understanding and gaining knowledge about fear/worry. Which gave me a common ground to work from.


Worry is the fear of not having knowledge. It is because of the story we convince ourselves to believe.


This leads to a balance of healthy fear and healthy stories. What is healthy fear? Fear of death bodily harm? This definition is unique to every living creature. Not only humans but any creature that strives for survival. My new method to balance fear is self talk. When we achieve the maturity level it takes to stop listening to the negative fearful untrue stories. Our mind will begin to question the truthfulness of the stories, balance may be achieved. However if we simply believe our mind and the stories that it tells we can never gain knowledge about the fear and the worry that holds us back from achieving our dreams and goals.

The balance is in the story we believe to be true. Change the story “In the light of knowledge courage remains”. Earl Nightingale

The quantum principle the creation of stories

We define the word quantum as the smallest particle that can exist independently from others.

When seen through the lens of a microscope our human bodies are nothing more than tiny particles working together to become the thing we are supposed be. As we live we experience all of the good things and all the bad things. If you were to look at each experience under a microscope it to would be unrecognizable. Each experience good or bad is working together to become the thing we are supposed to be.

When we look up from the lens of the microscope and we stare into the mirror. There is a reflection of what and who we believe we are. We are still the collection of particles. We are still the collection of experiences. Without each particle working together without each experience our reflection could not exist.

You see, the world you create is like the reflection in the mirror. It can be as beautiful as you choose. It can be an amazing story if you choose to believe it. It is simply a collection of particles and a collection of experiences allowing you to experience joy or pain.

When we zoom out further we can then see we are also a particle (Person) experiencing the environment that we create. The differences: we are the creators of what others see and experience. Without a team working together providing services and products we cannot help other families recognize the potential and opportunity for greatness.

2015 is the year of US an amazing team built and designed to create. Not just amazing physical creations. But experiences that can be remembered and talked about for years to come. Our ability to create and become the best is only limited by our imagination.

let 2015 be the year of growth for our families for our spirit for our lives. Take one moment and remember the struggles tell them thank you them for allowing you to become you. Take a moment to remember the joys and thank them for allowing you to become you. Let 2015 be the year that creates the best story of our lives. As a team we will make it a great one.

Money the ultimate fear

spiders, snakes, heights, they all can instill fear in our irrational minds. Each could kill us under the right circumstances. But the fear money instills in our human minds can cause our untimely demise physical or spiritual it’s still death. As humans we spend all our life trying to accumulate money as a sign of success. And as we get old we try desperately to use the money we accumulated to live our life. (what little time is left). The moments that matter are only stories that others tell. When we accumulate enough wealth to say we have succeeded we then tried desperately to hold onto that to which we call success. To protect it from those who want to take it from us. To which the fear will keep you up at night finding ways to protect your success. You will become sick with greed as you will die alone even though your physical body will go on you are not truly living. The fear of not having the money that we so desperately want and tell yourself you need will devour us into the darkness to which there is no escape. There are some that fear the lack of money so much that they will kill others to achieve the goal of having. My friends we can avoid spiders and snakes. We can choose not to climb. We can also choose to control our successes based on something other than money. To which you and I can live our lives on a unique one-of-a-kind experience remembering the moments that made us smile. Remembering to give back to the world around us. I we must teach our children that they are the gifts to the world the world is not a gift to them. The world will love them, take care of and allow them all the experiences they choose to have. Money will kill the soul and remove the joy of experiencing the world around us. This is why money should be feared above all other. Not because money is bad but because our belief of what money gives us.

Stay happy my friends listen…..